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Respect Her And Then Yourself

  • Written by Anonymous
  • April 17th, 2009
  • 6 min read


Black Pagoda Patpong Bangkok

Our lives here in Europe, I have to tell you folks, it ain’t real. We are lotus eaters. We can complain about the government and all that crap but it ain’t real. There is so much more going on in the world that we don’t know about. We have never had it so good. Go to a third world country where a woman will tell you she loves you (and mean it) even though she barely knows you.

Everyone on the planet has an idea that there is more to life than what they are experiencing. This is true. I am unemployed and for doing nothing day in day out; I get 200 Euros a week for my troubles. In Cambodia if you sit still you die of starvation. I won’t work in McDonalds because it will demean me as a person. In Cambodia a man will sit at home in the evenings taking care of his children and let his wife be a prostitute every night because it keeps their children in food. Go figure.

Hi, I am 38 years of age. I am at the very start of the age group that becomes a classic whoremonger. If I have my shit together and can manage to have a steady income every year I can budget to take 4 – 8 weeks off a year and travel to South East Asia and have sex with nubile young girls. I have no need for porn videos; have no need to use my imagination. I can simply book a plane ticket and take advantage of people (women and ladyboys) who are willing to sell their bodies to me. They sell their bodies to me for a week’s pay in Cambodia but to me it is just a round of drinks at home for me and my married friends. Ain’t life grand?

We all know the stories about Thai bar girls and their neighbours in Cambodia and Vietnam who will rip the piss out of fat, bald farang but I personally feel no badness towards them. Would you shag someone you found physically repulsive? If you had no other source of income, or your other source of income paid 90% less than shagging old ugly farang men, would you shag stupid middle-aged ugly men? If my life and my family depended on it, I would.

Sex is a wonderful and life enhancing activity; if it is in any way sincere and enjoyed by both parties. Paying someone to have sex with you who wouldn’t normally look at you twice in a normal social situation is the very same as masturbation, except this time you are not doing it with someone you love. So in effect paying a woman for sex is just a more expensive form of masturbation but without the intimacy that one may have when alone.

I’m a nice guy, I respect her and I know that she likes me. In fact, she says she loves me. Let’s ignore the fact that she is 10 – 20 years younger than me and can’t really have deep conversations with me because she can’t speak English very well. After spending time with her and being drunk or drugged and telling her my life story I know that she and I can be very happy together. Even though she couldn’t understand anything of my life story, I would love to take her home with me. My ex-wife may not understand her but my daughter might, after all they are around the same age.

I may be coming across as a staunch puritan here but please bear with me here guys. I have sampled the delights of SE Asia many times before but I also like to think that I can be true to myself. I had fairy tale sex with beautiful Asian women and I totally enjoyed it while it lasted but afterwards I felt a bit lessened as a man to be honest. I remember that article submitted to Stickman by Korski, "Men Who Fall In Love With Thai Hookers Are Clinically Sick" and personally it rings true to me.

I have a Cambodian woman who tells me she loves me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me. I am intelligent enough and experienced enough to know that four months together is not long enough to know whether we are in love or not. In fact, let’s be honest, I can spend the rest of my life travelling the world and meeting other interesting people and ‘finding’ myself. So why should I stay with her? I am enthralled by her; she loves me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me. There is no 28 year old, drop dead gorgeous woman at home who wants to do that with me. She wants us to get married so that she will have some security for herself and her child who was fathered by some other barang who is no longer around. I am charmed by her and want to look after her. I feel guilty that her life is so crap and I feel that I can make a big difference in her life if I stayed with her. But is it love? Does she really love me? Do I really love her? Of course not, to both questions. I may lust after her and have all these ideal situations in my head whereby I am looking after her, teaching her to read and write, helping her to become whole as a person. Making her a ‘better, more fulfilled’ person but at the end of the day it is all crap. If we lose contact she will open her legs for someone else tomorrow if she feels she will gain from it. My experience of life and her experience of life are not the same experiences. I am a sad and lonely 38 year old male but I hope I never fall in to the trap of believing that a 28 year old beautiful South Asian woman loves me. She will go along with the lie as long as it benefits her. I would love to spend the rest of my life shagging beautiful women but if I’m honest with myself I would rather be with a woman that is an individual human being who loved me for who I am rather than being an empty onanist who needed the superficial physical tight young Asian body to get my rocks off and help me forget my real life for half an hour.

Just to finish here and get my point across. Honestly folks, would you be happy with foreigners coming to your country for a beer holiday and shagging your daughter? If not, how can you be happy shagging girls who are young enough to be your daughter? If she had a choice do you honestly think that she would be in that room with you? Show a bit more respect for her and more importantly, for yourself.

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Stickman's thoughts:

I really like the message you make. A lot!