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A Lesson Learned

  • Written by Anonymous
  • October 27th, 2008
  • 8 min read


Black Pagoda Patpong Bangkok

I'd like to start off by saying thanks to all the folks who submit their experiences here. I have an interesting little story, but by no means unique. As an expat working in Korea, it is only a short 5 1/2 hours to Thailand, so I try and make a few trips a year, depending on my schedule.

This past May I spent 10 days in Thailand on a fishing trip (and yes, I primarily have been to Thailand to do some fishing, but do enjoy the nightlife). I only had a few days in Bangkok, the remaining time was in Rachaburi. I hit Soi Cowboy and took out a pretty young thing. I enjoyed the evening so I bar fined her a couple other times. When it was time to leave, she turned on the waterworks so I gave her my email address saying we would keep in touch. We emailed back and forth occasionally.

In July I had some time between projects so I emailed this lovely girl and told her I was heading back to Thailand on another fishing trip. She said she would love to see me again and that she was no longer working. The fishing trip had destinations all within a few hours of Bangkok so my hotel was close to Soi Cowboy (my favourite area). She spent the whole week with me, even going out fishing with me during the day. It was a pretty pleasant time overall (plus the fishing was fantastic).

In August the next project was delayed, so I figured what the heck and jumped on a plane and headed back to Thailand. Me and the lovely girl had a decent time hanging around BKK and Hua Hin. By now she is professing her love for me and I was getting a bit fond of her as well. She promised I was the only one and she was a good GF. I'm 39 and she's 20 so I knew there was no future, but she is definitely hot. I happen to be one of those guys that like the dark skin and thick thighs (plus the backside is pretty sweet).

This may be a bit of a side note, maybe it is relevant that's for y'all to decide… The last night at Hua Hin kinda got weird. The hotel we stayed at had a nice little bar and a decent restaurant that I enjoyed because it was a relaxed environment. After a long day at the beach we retreated to the hotel restaurant for a few drinks and some dinner. I casually mentioned that the waitress was very nice and lovely girl totally tripped out. She went on about how she saw the way I was looking at the waitress and yada yada. By the way, the waitress was very nice but she was just a plain jane and I never even thought of hitting on her. Anyway, we get back to the room and lovely girl was still tripping. I don't know about you guys, but I found this tiresome and just ignored her and drank a couple of beers that were in the fridge. She packs her stuff and walks out. Okay, I figure that is that. I lock the door, take a shower and jump in bed (as I learn later she must have come back while I was in the shower and found the door locked).

I had a driver pick me up in the morning to take me back to BKK. Apparently I was quite the talk since my GF had to leave on her own the night before so the waitresses were sure to let the driver know (he spoke some English) and I caught all the dirty looks. I had a late night flight home, so I had until 11pm at the latest around Soi Cowboy to have some fun.

So, lovely girl bolted on me the night before, what do you think my plans are??? After getting to the hotel, I took a shower and hit a massage place. Another shower and I was waiting for the action to start at Soi Cowboy. I hit a couple bars and grabbed a girl to go. Did my business and was on my way to check out and drink a beer or 2 before calling a taxi to the airport. On my way out of the room I got a call from lovely girl. She was in tears freaking out that I took a girl. She and a friend staked out Soi Cowboy looking for me. Her friend went into the bar to observe how many girls I had around me and how many "lady drinks" I was buying. WOW.

Anyway, I head down to the bar at the hotel before I had to get a taxi and lovely girl is sitting on the curb sobbing like crazy. She made quite the scene, even the hotel folks were coming up to me asking what I was going to do. Needless to say I missed my damn flight and had to spend a couple extra days until the next flight.

Lovely girl spent the next couple days with me, treating me well (other than the occasional mention of the Soi Cowboy girl). Things seemed to work out in the end.

I work a lot of hours and usually 6 or 7 days a week, so I figure I deserve my little vacations when my schedule allows it. We started planning a 10 day visit for November. Head down to Koh Samui and then a few days in her province of Buriram. You hear a lot about where the girls come from and get to see some pictures of their hometowns, but I was truly interested in seeing first hand where they grow up and what level of poverty sends them to the bars. I'm also bit of a country boy and have spent my share of time working on farms growing up.

About a week and a half ago, she says she is going to her hometown and the phone connections are bad, for me not to get upset if I can't connect to her phone. No big deal. I tried to call her now and then, and either got a message the lines were busy, or I would get a busy signal, or nothing. I was able to get through every once in awhile. She still would send out an email every few days. Yesterday I called a couple times, it rang and then hung up. This seemed a bit suspicious and I remember reading on here that a lot of girls use 123456 as their email passwords.

Probably a little devious on my part, but 123456 was her password. What a bit of a surprise, there was a number of guys emailing her and talking about how much they enjoyed spending time with this "lovely girl".

I spent a bit of money on some shopping and a few hundred bucks here and there "to help out", nothing like some of the horror stories I've read about. It cost me $25 to cancel my plane tickets and another $30 to cancel the hotels. Much better than the thousands I would have spent on the November trip.

After reading up to this point, some may think I am bitter about this little "adventure", but I am not. I am surprised how well lovely girl could lie straight to my face, I actually believed some of what she said (and would not be shocked to know some of it was true). Maybe she is looking for Mr. Right. Who knows?

Since I do have access to her email, some would think I would send out emails to all her guys and let them know she is playing games. Nah, maybe who she is looking for is out there, it could be you (I do know your names, ha ha), but it sure the hell ain't me. All I did was delete the emails I sent to her, the ones she sent to me and my contact info. My email isn't hard to memorize, but I doubt she won't figure out who deleted the emails, so I probably won't hear from her again. I won't contact her either.

In conclusion, I've spent the past 13 years living in Japan and Korea, and have travelled quite a bit over the years. I think I am a pretty open minded person, and do my best to respect other cultures. Will I be back to Thailand…hell yea! I will revert back to how I did things in the past, one girl one night (or maybe 2 girls, but never more than 1 night). Nothing more, nothing less.

I've never been to the PI (I'm shocked too) and think that will be my next trip. I still need to figure out the best bang for the buck. I only plan on working 5 more years (if things go well) or 10 at the most, so I need to find a little slice of paradise.

Thanks for reading my ramblings, good luck in all your endeavours!

Thai Dating, Singles and Personals

Stickman's thoughts:

Yet another in a long line of stories of just what these girls get up to.

What I would take out of this one is that they will cry and perform to manipulate you into doing what is advantageous to them. Quite disgusting behaviour really.

If a woman ever sulks and leaves, let her leave – and if she tries to come back, call security and get rid of her. Call me heartless but 99 of the time it is one big game!