Tea And Sympathy
I felt the need to title this piece however Tea and Sympathy has no bearing whatsoever on what I am about relay. I was in BKK in March 2006 for my first ever trip there. I am 44 years old, divorced and in to exercise, running and the like. I use this as an excuse to visit various countries and sort of combine running with sightseeing. I read a little about Thailand and thankfully discovered the Stickman prior to my departure. Now for the self perception bit, I don't see myself as a sex tourist, I think I'm decent looking, I know I'm fit, and I think I'm a decent type of guy (who really knows). I have a good job , very decent income and would probably be considered very well off even in Farangland.
I spent 10 days in Thailand in all. Prior to heading over there I joined an online chat service, I think it was Thailand friends for about $10 a month. Over the course of about 3 weeks pre-trip I managed to obtain about 12 different phone numbers of Thai women who wanted to meet me, and I carefully wrote all the numbers down with a few comments about each person. I packed the sheet with all the names in my camera case and carefully packed it within my luggage before I set off. When I arrived in BKK my luggage arrived but the camera had been stolen. Perhaps this was a sign from the heavens that what I had done was wrong, and I should listen to the message and behave myself. It was funny though I now had no leg up on meeting women in Thailand, and so I thought I had my work cut out for me.
Well it was late on arrival and I was picked up promptly from the airport and transported to my hotel. Check in went smoothly, and the facilities were great for $32 per night, with breakfast included. Unbelievable value for money I thought, and I was right, it was. Over the next couple of days I did my running thing and when it was over I had promised myself that I would spend the remaining week sightseeing. Up to that point I found the Thai people to be friendly and courteous, and I of course did notice that many of the Thai women were really beautiful. Anyway I digress, on the second day I received a call in my hotel room from one of the ladies I had spoken with on Thai friends. She had not heard from me and I guess I had mentioned what hotel I was staying at, so she bit the bullet and decided to contact me. I apologized for not calling her and told her that I had lost her number. She seemed fine with this and told me that she would come to the hotel to see me. I was kind of excited about this and surprised as she was basically on her way and would be there within the hour.
I won't use her real name but let's call her Lok. So anyway this very nice office worker with a university education, and an excellent command of the English language shows up. We got along great and we spent the next week together. She had a brand new car and even offered to loan it to me on the days that she had to work. She has a great job by Thai standards, a beautiful smile and a great wit. I travelled with her and met her family and it was truly wonderful. I am going back to Thailand in a few months to see her again and I'm really looking forward to it. I don't know where it will go but what do either of us have to lose? She has not asked me for any money, but if she did I would happily part with it. <Why?! – Stick>
The other point is I am learning the language out of respect for her, as I believe it conveys a healthy respect for the person and their culture particularly if you want to pursue a longer type of relationship. We email every day and talk on the phone occasionally. Over the course of 10 days I was never ripped off or scammed by anyone. I bargained in the markets but not to an extreme degree, because everything is so cheap. In regards to taxi drivers I avoided the ones who wanted to take me to gogo bars, but I still chatted with them and had a laugh and would often ask them for directions to some place or other and they would happily oblige. When I took taxis I always asked for the meter to be turned on and never had a problem with that.
I think Thailand is a great country with wonderful people, with a great culture and that the people have a sense of self.
There we are, proof that you do not need to go to the bars to meet women, even if you are only going to be in Thailand for a short time on holiday.