Like many of us on this website, I have enjoyed and learned things from Stick and the readers. The thing that always strikes me the most is how pathetic men can be (at least the ones who go to Thailand and have a “relationship” with a prostitute). The way they think, based on their submissions, is comical.
First, I would like to make a confession. Years ago I fell for a woman in Thailand. I did not meet her in a bar. If I did, then a short time would be all I would spend on her. I met her on the train from Ubon Ratchatani to Bangkok. Let’s put it this way, if I knew about Thailand what I know now, I would have dismissed her smile without effort. But I was totally green. I fell for her. Why not? When was the last time that a 28-year old exotic young woman approached a man in his 50s? Oh, prostitutes do that but I did not know anything about prostitutes and I really do not want to know (what is there to know?).
So it turns out that she was a prostitute. I don’t know exactly what her story was. After so many lies, I stopped trying to figure her out. I don’t think that she worked in a bar or that she was a full-time hooker. I guess in Thailand there is this gray area between prostitution and pretention of normal life that many women walk through. The red lights were there from day one but being clueless I pathetically tried to “understand” her. Until I realized that there was nothing to understand.
I learned from that experience. What did I learn? Well, I learned about Thailand. I learned that my youth is over. I also learned to ask questions about women in general. The women here in Farangland. Look at this.
What’s the difference between part time hookers in Thailand and a woman in the west who has slept with 30 men before she gets to choose to marry the highest bidder? And then how many men do they sleep with after marriage? And on the average they don’t even get close to having the beauty and femininity of women in Thailand.
Did I just shoot myself in the foot? I was trying to write about how pathetic many men on this website sound when they talk about their “dates” and “relationships” with prostitutes. Well, maybe I didn’t. First, there are marriages all over the world where clean women function as good wives and mothers. I must say that they are very rare in the west and I personally do not know any such women unless they are religious. Although nowadays a religious catholic woman, dedicated protestant, or orthodox Jewish woman are more liberal than the average western woman before the sexual revolution. It seems that the only real women left are either Muslim or traditional simple small village women around the world.
Come to think of it, no wonder middle-aged men go to Thailand and accept sitting in a bar with a hooker as a romantic connection. She is so screwed up in her head, drunk, and focused on getting money from the old fart but he reports about how they sat and talked and it was so full of feelings and romance. I don’t get it and it would not work for me. It sounds pathetic to me.
If a middle-aged man writes in his submission that he enjoyed being with a young beautiful woman, drinking alcohol, and not give her another thought, I can fully understand. Why not? It beats sitting with a fat 50-year old cow in the west who thinks that she is doing you a favor and that she has something to offer. But when I read, “My girlfriend and I had a romantic time together and then she had to go back to the bar” or “My girlfriend is the most beautiful woman in the world. I am in love with her. I am in the process of asking her how much money she will accept from me each month so that she will stop working in the bars (as a prostitute of course)”, I wonder if the writer has his head screwed properly. And there have been tons of submissions on this website to indicate that there is no shortage of such men.
Thailand is amazing. Even the prostitutes may be sometimes amazing. They have invented the idea of selling men not only sex but also fantasies. There is nothing wrong, as far as I am concerned, for a middle-aged man to enjoy their services for what they are. As long as he does not get HIV or murdered. But, please, don’t call her your girlfriend. She looks at you the same way you look at an 80-year old woman!