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Online Dating – Can It ‘Work’…? – Part 20

  • Written by Anonymous
  • November 6th, 2015
  • 5 min read


Black Pagoda Patpong Bangkok



Part-1 outlined my basic reasons for investigating ThaiLoveLinks.

Part-2 detailed my first two meetings with tender Thai damsels.

Part-3 covers two further meetings with less tender lasses.

Part-4, in which I investigate a ‘company girl’, and take a break.

Part-5, where the ‘company girl’ gets another break.

Part-6, and I meet with two bored, and boring, ladies.

Part-7 wherein we limber up to meet three ladies in two days.

Part-8 where I fail to meet two out of three ladies, and check The Plaza.

Part-9 and I fail to meet the third lady.

Part-10 continues the search, closer to home.

Part-11 and the first actual audition in the home.

Part-12, and the local talent comes home to roost.

Part-13, and another multiple trip to Bangkok.

Part-14 My lost life to the end of 2013.

Part-15 A little success ends in tragedy.

Part-16 wherein two ladies arrive for a few days, and leave within 48 hours.

Part-17 and the first potential success arrives in Hua Hin.



Part-18 and the next one is turned back at the eleventh hour.

Part-19 while the first one gets a second chance, and right royally blows it…!

After four years of seeking salvation online I am rather in despair that my latest escapade (Part-19) was no different to what I had for seven years (from the honeymoon onwards) with my ex. What is a boy to do…?

The nonsense with Bam about it being too hot to garden makes me wonder just what sort of farm she had when, a year ago, my friend Nokk (after convalescing from a double mastectomy) worked six consecutive, seven-hour, days in my garden and only complained when I tried to get her to rest. A few months ago a charming bar-girl (they do pop into my life occasionally…) spent a couple of hours in the early morning, wrapped in a towel, on her knees picking weeds out of the cracks in the patio tiles – she wasn’t expected to do so, she just saw the problem, and reacted like a sensible person. And it didn’t do any harm to her tip either.

Maybe Bam was not as industrious in my home because… she didn’t intend me to stay here… and it would have been wasted effort.

Incidentally… on Sunday when Bam was flicking through her garden photos, I spotted a couple of me… She was always trying to take photos, and I’m not keen on it, not knowing where they end up. I also made it clear I didn’t like secret photos at home, when I’m not looking my best so, to discover she has taken a couple of me sitting at my desk half naked annoys me. I protest and, as far as I can tell, she deletes them but… this behaviour is deceitful, dishonourable, and dishonest… Maybe she has some of me sleeping, naked… How would I know…?

This person, the oldest and most mature woman I’ve ever had a relationship with, was the most devious, dishonest and self-centred I’ve ever ‘known’ – anywhere…!
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Some things come to mind… I am looking for a ‘domestic’. Someone who might want a better life than at present but not someone who has delusions of grandeur or is just plain greedy, or lazy… but maybe this sort of person is unlikely to try online dating…

I have also tried to find someone locally, who can come and go as she pleases but all I’ve ever received is a query for, ‘How much…?’ and, even when I have started to mention a figure, it seems to be sneered at… and I’m not going to pay 500 ฿/hr…!
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However… and this is where the story really starts… a couple of days after Bam has set sail from my jetty I receive a surprise message on ThaiFriendly from… ‘Sai’, in Khon Kaen, who has moved closer to Bangkok… and wants to know if I remember her…

Sai first came into my life in March, 2014, a year ago, but, after two months of almost daily, but brief and repetitive, messages, expressing frequent hopes of coming to Hua Hin, it seemed to fizzle out and, while I was trying to press forward, Sai was being nice and polite (always using ‘ka’ in messages) but just seemed rather vague, and unsure… and anyway that was the time when I virtually gave up for several months.

Now, out of the blue, I receive a surprise message that seems interested to try again. Oddly, there is no reference to our previous messages… almost as if she doesn’t realise she’s met me before. Again we exchange brief daily messages but eventually speak on the phone where she is much more voluble. She has some ability writing English, but speaks very little. I cannot write Thai, but can speak a little. It works fairly well, when she doesn’t forget to speak very slowly… but she seems very happy to chat with me and easily gets carried away…

After a month of this Sai finally arrives at the Hua Hin Bus Station, for the day (sensibly), and without the friend I had agreed she could bring… She is very quiet, but chats nicely, and is perhaps the nicest person I’ve met in these four years online. We have lunch and I ask if she’d like to visit my home…

It’s a very brief stay, about three hours in Hua Hin, with 5-6 hours travelling before and after, between two work days. I am very grateful she made the effort. Two days later she accepts my ‘offer’, returns the following weekend, for two nights, to check, before resigning from her job… and finally moves in at the end of the month….

. . . and we’ve been together ever since, and have barely stopped laughing and joking, every day…

Thus I can now say: Online Dating…? For me it has (finally) worked.
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During this series which, like Topsy, just grew and grew, I have made a few side comments, to return to if I had time… and I will deal with them next time…

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That’s all for now folks… Pip, Pip.


Hua Hin Harry


to be continued…