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Simon’s ‘Why I Will Never Marry A Thai: Intellectual Curiosity’

  • Written by Anonymous
  • February 18th, 2015
  • 4 min read


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The analysis of Simon about Thai mentality is by far the most comprehensive and the most brilliant submission I’ve read on this site. ‘Hitting the nail on the head’ is a tremendous understatement! It should, however, be published as a ‘guest-contribution’ in the Bangkok Post or something similar. No offense, Stick, but within this blog it’s somewhat misplaced. <Not misplaced at all, this is THE site for itStick>

I’m a European academic, living in Thailand for many years with my (highly educated) Thai wife. The following circular (sequence) to my friends was sent at the end of 2013, calling it, ’The essence of all things is its appearance’, or ‘Why I wouldn’t live in Thailand without my wife.‘

All the problems of Thailand you learn about in the news are not solely the work of some individuals, but have deep roots within the society and the much-heralded culture. Actually culture is used as excuse for still stand. ‘Mai bhen rai‘, means ‘It’s okay, I don’t mind’ or ‘Kiss my A..’. Truth to be told I’m still searching the special merits of this culture and of Buddhism too. Buddha, I’m certain was a good man, but most of his sayings are a succession of banalities, are they not? The essence is, ‘be good humans, and you will be rewarded next life’, something nobody seems to pay heed to, except Richard Gere, who is probably the only authentic Buddhist worldwide.

On the other hand, truly important words Buddha teaches (in my opinion),

Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”

are definitely not appreciated/understood/followed at all by the Thai people.

The Thais are nice (mostly), helpful (yes, they are!), blessed with many(!) skills and talents. Unfortunately they are also extensive uneducated and resistant to advice. You may spend days at the Victory Monument asking people why it was erected and when. I promise, the first to answer the question will be a foreigner. I’m dealing mainly with academics, in Thailand’s society, the ‘crème de la crème’. They are good in their job, but their common knowledge is ZERO. This has nothing to do with lack of intellectual potential, but the systematic gradually reducing of any ability of independent thinking and comprehending, starting from early childhood. Oh yes, kids are permanently spoiled and loved. Adults in the sky train or on the express boat rise so the sweetheart can rest his little ass. However reflecting, contemplating is not part of the program. Kids early on learn that mum and dad, and later the teachers (most of them distinguished from their pupils only by age) are always right. Grandpa talks nonsense and pee his pants, but he is> 70 years old and therefore even more right. The kids in school already know that a good job has nothing to do with qualification but connections. Regarding English language skills within ASEAN, Thailand comes last, behind true 3rd world countries such as Cambodia, Myanmar and Laos (Vietnam anyway).

From time to time Thailand is unpredictably hit from severe flooding, causing tremendous human and economic damage. But even when the shit hits the fan, advice from experts such as Dutch, Germans, Singaporeans or their own people is not appreciated. For Thais, advice automatically means criticism and some AH of a decision maker may lose face. That’s enough to reject even the best advice; may the country suffer, so what? Note: Face goes before truth. The Thais (Sorry!), ALL, don’t comprehend that straight but civil argument is an essential ingredient of mankind’s progress. In consequence decisions are not made, but debated instead and diluted in endless never-ending meetings (Thailand’s popular sport number one).

ASEAN is ‘ante portas’, means 2015, and then at the latest the arrogant and ignorant lowlifes ruling (ruining) this beautiful country (note: at 2013 Ying Luk et al. were still in charge) will realize that they moved the country to the end of the food chain.

So, why Thailand? Because my wife is here, that’s it. With her Alaska would be fine for me either.