Why Thailand is so Addictive to Western Men
I have just recently returned from another 2-week stint in Pattaya and I have been reflecting on my night-time activities and the night time activities of other western men – my peers – colleagues if you will, that I witnessed partaking in Pattaya’s naughty nightlife. Although I don’t know these men personally I do consider them to be my peers as they are involved in the same activities that I am and similar thoughts, emotions and chemicals are surging through their bodies as they engage with the beautiful young Thai women and ladyboys that make up the nightlife in Thailand.
I postulate that us Western men on holiday partaking in the naughty nightlife in Thailand are essentially on drugs. That’s right – we are on drugs and many of us are drug addicts.
You see – the human body has naturally occurring drugs that are produced in reaction to certain activities and the environment that people find themselves in. This is why Thailand is so addictive to western men: It’s an environment which has perfectly evolved to cause the human male body to produce large amounts of prolactin, oxytocin, endorphins, adrenaline, phenylethylamine, testosterone and serotonin in response to the sexual stimulus that’s all around us. The beautiful women, ladyboys and handsome Thai men dressed in a provocative and highly sexual manner walk the streets of Pattaya looking for clients. Just the sight of so many beautiful people dressed in such a sexually appealing way causes us men to begin to drift into a drug-induced stupor.
Let’s discuss some of the drugs that are released by the human body in response to such a highly stimulatory environment.
Prolactin relieves sexual arousal after orgasm and takes your mind off sex. It rises sharply immediately after orgasm in almost everyone. It's one of the few moments of the day when we men aren't preoccupied with sex. Prolactin disengages you from sex after an orgasm, allowing you to think of other things besides the naked woman right in front of you. This is why after sex you want to get ‘back to business’ – your mind is flooded with all the activities and things you want to accomplish next.
Oxytocin stimulates the prostate, causes muscle contractions and sensitizes nerves. Research has shown that increased oxytocin produces more intense orgasms. Oxytocin is known as the "cuddling hormone" because it causes you to feel a connection and bond with your beautiful young teerak. This is why we enjoy cuddling with our partners after sex even if we don’t admit to it.
Endorphins are a group of neurotransmitters formed within the body that bind to opiate receptor sites in your brain to naturally relieve pain. The bio-chemicals acetylcholine and dopamine are known as endorphins, and have a similar chemical structure to morphine. They are also known to lower stress and boost confidence. Endorphins produce feelings of euphoria and pleasure, and they have a calming effect. They fill you with a sense of well-being and relaxation. They may also make you feel dizzy and drowsy, and you might even drift off to sleep.
Adrenaline activates the sympathetic nervous system, which increases your heart rate and dilates arteries to increase blood flow to your muscles during sex. It also causes a refractory period in which another orgasm is impossible for up to 20 minutes after sex. During intercourse, increased amounts of adrenaline are released from the adrenal glands. This chemical amplifies the circulatory system with each heart contraction. Adrenaline makes you feel exhilarated and makes your heart feel like it's pounding out of your chest.
Phenylethylamine triggers the release of dopamine in the pleasure centers of the brain. This chemical is released during sex and peaks at orgasm. It is also one of the chemicals found in chocolate. Phenylethylamine is why you are overwhelmed with feelings of bliss, attraction and excitement towards your beautiful, young and sexy Thai teerak.
Testosterone fuels sexual drive and aggression. It is essential to your libido and sexual arousal. Men (and women) with a testosterone deficiency often have trouble getting aroused and have a lower interest in sex. Testosterone makes you feel turned on and sexually virile and gives you a rush of confidence after sex.
Serotonin regulates your moods. Having an orgasm releases an extra shot of serotonin to your brain, which acts as an anti-depressant. You feel cheerful, hopeful, emotionally balanced, and content. Most clinical anti-depression medications pump up serotonin levels in your brain
During the actual sex act we men experience large bursts of these chemicals flooding our bodies in a short period of time causing us to feel a state of ecstasy – a natural chemical high that is extremely addictive. Who needs drugs when you already have all the chemicals you need just waiting to be realised by your body! As Patrick Swayze’s character Bodie says to Johnny Utah in the movie Point Break “Pure adrenalin, right?! The ultimate rush. Other guys snort for it, jab a vein for it — all you gotta do is jump.”
Think about the environment in which the human ape evolved – the savannahs of Africa. How often would a man see one let alone hundreds of beautiful women surrounding him? The male of the species has evolved to have sex with as many beautiful women as possible and in an environment like Soi 6 Pattaya this is possible. Add alcohol into the mix and you have all the ingredients for a very addictive activity. The activity of the monger. It’s the body’s natural drugs at work creating a feel good chemical cocktail. Hence the reasons why many men can’t just go to Pattaya once – they become lifetime repeat visitors. Side note: Pattaya City is the ultimate repeat purchase business. Why the Thai officials want to clean it up and remove this steady source of revenue is beyond me. Warren Buffet really likes repeat purchase businesses. You know – businesses like Coca-Cola, Gillette, Sees Candy etc. You have to keep buying these products so these businesses keep making money hand over fist.
Now think about the environment back home in the West. You know what you’re going home to. I’m not going to depress you with a description of it – you know exactly how it makes you feel. It’s the lack of chemical high, my friend. You have left Thailand and now you’re withdrawing from drugs in an environment that is not built for rehab (as we all know too well – it's full of entitled western women, their male enablers / henchmen, groveling simps and the like). This environment has no patience nor tolerance of your behaviour (you filthy sex tourist). You're detoxing in an environment where the people around you are not supporting of you at all – they have no sympathy whatsoever for you! Think of a rehab centre where all the staff are doing everything they can to hate on you, discredit you and f*ck you over. Feels good doesn't it you filthy sex tourist! (I don’t like that term by the way but I will save my reasons why for a future submission). You get no sympathy in the West because you're the fly in the ointment, the monkey in the wrench – a pain in the arse and a constant and irritating reminder to all the married men of what they gave up to engage in a more socially acceptable form of male payment and resource provision for female sex.
For some of you the low point hits you early on – starting with the cab trip from Pattaya to Bangkok airport. For others – your low point hits whilst you’re sitting alone at the airport waiting to board your plane back home to the West. This is really just the start of your withdrawal. Think of all those partners you had in Thailand – your body was on a 2-week drug trip. Your drug trip is now over – you don’t feel the full effects of the sickness yet but it’s in the post, that's for sure. You’re in the sex tourist limbo at the moment.
A few notes about withdrawing from your drug trip. It takes me at least a month to do this. The first time I came back from Pattaya was by far the worst. Each successive trip it seems to get a little (but not much) easier. The thought that I know I will be back in Thailand again in the not too distant future eases the pain somewhat.
Gentlemen, I want you to memorize what I have termed "The Pretender's Rule of Three" which states: No large or life changing decisions for three months after you have returned home from Thailand.
I assure you that if you follow The Pretender's Rule of Three you’ll thank me. You’ll certainly be richer for it. Your mind takes time to return to full rationality and to adjust back to life at home in the West. Your heart will never be the same but you’re a man and by extension a rational being. Remember: Three (3) months. Mark my words.
Think about those mice studies those egg head scientists conducted back in the day where they gave a mouse a hit of cocaine every time it pressed a lever. The mouse didn’t stop for a minute to take a sip of water or even eat. It just kept hitting that lever until it died of an overdose. We are the mice gentlemen and sex is our drug. We had to board a plane to come to Thailand and that meant leaving the western world – an environment with levers that cause pain when pressed (nagging western women, divorce, child support etc). We came to an environment with levers that bring us pleasure every time when pressed and we just keep pressing those levers don’t we? We just can’t stop no matter how hard we try. The thought of the Pattaya sex levers being removed or going back to the West where pain is caused at the mere thought of touching a lever causes us mental anguish.
So be careful out there, my Stickman friends. Withdrawal is tough but you will get through it. Take each day as it comes and remember – you’re only a plane trip away from those levers that deliver the ultimate pleasure in life. Avoid pressing those levers when you get home – coming off drugs is much preferable to what your body produces in response to those levers being pressed in the western world – irritation, frustration, grief, annoyance, rage, anger, loathing etc. You have an itch you can’t scratch in the West. You’ll be back again. I’ll see you in 3 months Pattaya!
All the best Gentlemen!