Readers' Submissions

Do You Still Monger Once Hitched?

  • Written by Samui Lou
  • October 9th, 2014
  • 5 min read




It's been a while since my last submission because there has not been too much to report since I'm living in an Arabic country for the last 6 years with my Thai wife and two kids. My life has become a boring existence as compared to when I used to live in Bangkok. Luckily the business aspect of my life has been successful and I'm able to save some money for my eventual retirement in Thailand. I used to travel at least 4 times a year to Thailand for business but it's been over a year since my last trip. When I used to visit Bangkok I would meet up with old friends and enjoy the girlfriend experience with ladies I met over the years. This was a great release from the monotony of being married for 15 years and the boredom of living on a small island.

I have a good marriage and I would not trade it in for the life of a monger. In years past and prior to my second marriage I would travel to Asia to do business and sleep with an abundance of ladies. My travels would take me to China, Hong Kong, the Philippines, Cambodia and Vietnam. I would take care of business then I would think of only one thing and that was to find beautiful woman to sleep with. Now I guess I'm a reformed monger since I realized that this type of lifestyle did not bring me true happiness. But once in a white the urge comes up in me and I just can't help myself. Luckily where I live there are many places to find Thai working women, but since I live in a small expat community I need to be extremely careful. Over the summer my wife was away for a month so I spent weekends out on the prowl. The sad thing is most of the Thai ladies who work here are the rejects from Pattaya because they tend to be too old, too fat and too ugly. Once in a while you can find a diamond in the rough and land one who is new to the scene and you can have a great time in her apartment. I've made sure to catch and release because the last thing I want is that taking care of an urge will affect my marriage.

My question to Stickman readers; is there something wrong with me to risk my marriage to get laid by a working girl who is not as hot as my wife? I'm one of the lucky ones who was able to take the bar out of the girl and probably because she only worked as a cashier in a famous bar in Nana Plaza. She is a nympho and likes to get it on as much as I do which is a few times a week. Three to four times a week is not too bad after 15 years of marriage! On top of that, she is sexy with a body as good as when I met her and that is after dropping 2 kids. She is the opposite of lazy, makes a home-cooked breakfast every morning before my children go to school. So what is wrong with me that I risk something so good to satisfy an urge?

I'm a firm believer in fate because there must be a reason I ended up in a boring Muslim country instead of staying in Thailand where I could not control myself. There are too many temptations living in Bangkok and I'm over 55 years old with an average body and looks. When I worked in an office in Thailand, girls 20 years younger than me would come on to me knowing that I was married with kids. When I used to travel regularly to Thailand there were ladies who I knew for years that were always available for a night out then return to my hotel room. Plainly speaking, of all the countries I have traveled there is no place like Thailand to get laid.

Of course I don't delude myself and I know it has to do with money but I'm not overly extravagant. I'm a gentleman who shows respect and I do really listen and care for them as friends. On the other hand I never send them money once I leave town.

The moral of my story is that I have more questions than answers. Do you think once you are a monger you will always have the tendency to return to old habits? At one time in my life I read up on sexual addiction because I just couldn't get enough and it preoccupied my mind. So in your humble opinion Stickman readers is it normal to have other sexual liaisons even though you are happily married?




Stickman's thoughts:

I can only speak for myself. I was a naughty boy in my first few years in Thailand. It wasn't my reason for moving here, but I sure fell in to the scene. Thailand went through something of a sexual revolution in the early '00s as more foreigners arrived, Internet usage became mainstream and middle-class Thai women turned to foreign men for fun and not necessarily relationships. At that point I lost interest in the ladies of the night and have never looked back. Again, speaking only for myself, I would never go back to the bar scene, primarily because I would not cheat on my other half. I know I would be furious if she cheated on me and as such I would never cheat on her. If I wasn't happy with her, I'd part ways. I often see beautiful women in Bangkok who it would be great to spend bed-time with, but at the same time I am happy with what I have at home.

I'd be very interested to see what others think – and I hope article of yours generates some follow-up submissions.