There are recurring themes within the Thai girl blog universe and commonsense advice is given freely as a sort of street savvy truth. A few of the most repeated are (a) you wouldn’t marry a prostitute in your own country so why do it in Thailand (b) Thai women will lie and cheat to get what they want from you (c) your relationship will fail after the gloss of lust has receded as you will have very little in common with a 6th grade educated rural Thai. All good points but all tell more about the person giving advice than the advice given.
Thailand is an emerging nation and is in a dynamic period of change. It is closest if you seek a comparison to a “Victorian age” society. Conservative but hypocritical and corrupt, outwardly pious but greedy and violent, in massive transition as people move from the countryside to the cities. The streets of Victorian cities were teeming with Isaan prostitutes, tens of thousands of Isaan laborers poured into the city from their rural Isaan farms. Broken pavement, pollution, disease, stench were the norm. Just transpose Isaan with Ireland or other places of migration in that period and you will see it. If Jack the ripper were to run riot in modern day Bangkok his victims would be poor and striving just like they were in our days past. And I say our days past because a prostitute in a Western society today has very little in common to her Victorian era sister. A Thai prostitute on the other hand would empathize with the goals of her Victorian era sister.
So what are you getting when you team up with a rural Thai female who has made the decision to sell her body on the streets of Bangkok or Pattaya? You are getting Scarlett O’Hara.
The theaters of the depression era western world were packed to see a movie called Gone with the Wind. I think most people would know it. Scarlett O’Hara was the central character, the movie is set in rural Thailand and Scarlett is the girl who has to make some tough decisions. The pivotal piece in the story is when Scarlett, standing alone in a rice paddy says this to the heavens:
Buddha is my witness, as Buddha is my witness they're not going to lick me. I'm going to live through this and when it's all over, I'll never be hungry again. No, nor any of my folk. If I have to lie, steal, cheat or kill. As Buddha is my witness, I'll never be hungry again.
Everybody in the West loved that soliloquy, they understood it, most of them were but a generation removed from it, illiterate parents rural background etc. It’s the ones who got off their arse who made it. That’s the message.
I love the girls of Thailand especially the ones who have got off their arse. Lie cheat or kill as Scarlett said, never be hungry again nor any of my folk, well this is family love, as Buddha is my witness, oh the universality of it all!
So will your life with Scarlett last? Probably not, no different really than the west. Will you grow apart as lust recedes? Definitely yes, again no different than the west there and what about her poor education? Well you can’t have it both ways. If she is educated she is not going to put up with sexist shit you put to her, so rejoice in her untainted pure form. Will Scarlett lie cheat and kill? Hopefully she won’t kill you but she has made a solemn pact with the heavens so if you cop only the lie and cheat then hey you’re lucky!
A big number of the blokes in bars across Thailand, the ones who are looking for love that is, are doomed to fail as they are looking for a maid who F#@ks. They end up with Scarlett can’t take it and then the sage like advice begins to all newbies. Some people will argue that women have no souls or that they all inhabit the one soul and only men are truly individual. Well it can feel like that at times for sure, but the reality of the situation is more human in its nature. Women have often told me they wish they were a man ,and the reason for this? To be free, to be able to walk away, even Scarlett couldn’t make a pact with the heavens without mentioning her family.
And Scarlett, how did she end up in the movie? Well just like in real life her Teerak has had enough and packs his bag and heads to the airport to go back to the West she cries some crocodile tears and gets back on the horse no doubt because she will NEVER be hungry again.