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Why I Won’t Become A Pattaya Sex Tourist

  • Written by Jay C
  • January 4th, 2014
  • 4 min read




This reader's sub is inspired by Pretender's sub titled "Why I Became A Pattaya Sex Tourist". First, let me say that it is in no way a criticism of what he wrote. I respect the man's honesty and I appreciate where he's coming from. I do believe that there is far too much western women bashing on this site in general. I can honestly say that I have never in my entire life encountered anyone such as he describes. Neither can I say have any of my siblings or friends. Most of the western women who I know are normal, hard-working and honest people. I've never met any blatant gold diggers like are described in some subs.

Starky wrote a rather negative reply to Pretenders most recent sub titled "Poetic Justice". All I can say about that is that it takes a certain type of person to take pleasure in someone else's obvious misfortune. There seems to be a certain amount of people who believe that anal sex is the devil's work. Or that it's unnatural or whatever. I'm not into receptive anal intercourse myself but each to his / her own. It doesn't keep me up at night. So long as there are two consenting adults involved then I'm pretty much ok with it. I honestly believe that Pretender's sub detailing the dangers involved in being with a ladyboy is an educational piece that anyone interested in ladyboys should read. There are also plenty of straight men who like digits in the ass so you could say it is a must read for straight guys too. Anyways, I digress…

I've had a little experience of being in Pattaya and "enjoying" the pleasures involved. I put the word "enjoying" in inverted commas because although it was certainly a pleasurable experience it wasn't exactly something I would tell my grandchildren about. I enjoy the fact that you can pick and choose random sexual partners almost everywhere you go. Going to a club back home compared to going clubbing in Thailand is a completely different ballgame. I can understand how people get addicted to it. However, the flip side of the coin is that it's so blatantly false and commercial. Which sums up why I'm not sure that I will return. Don't get me wrong. It's not like I don't think of it. Truth be told the salacious sois are never far from my mind. I don't think there's anything quite like it. However, keeping the company of sex workers who look upon you as nothing more than a source of income has to have a negative effect on your well-being. I am personally prone to anxiety and depression and I need to be careful about the situations I put myself in.

Another factor is the alcohol. Going to Thailand inevitably involves going to pubs and clubs. Which means there will be plenty of alcohol being drunk. This all gets very boring very quickly. Not only boring but also damaging to my health. Also it has been written countless times about the type of westerner that you will meet up with in Thailand.

Anyways, that's pretty much all I wanted to say. It's kind of like the way the most enjoyable things in life are bad for your health. Like chocolate and beer. Being a sex tourist could have massive consequences on how you are looked upon by your friends and peers. You can argue that you are doing nothing wrong by going but the fact is that most people will look at you in the same light as a "Gary Glitter" type of person. Or at best a sexual predator.

This all leads to me not feeling good about myself if I indulge in such behaviour. I'm certainly not judging anyone – and yes I am certainly a little envious but that's life. Each to their own.

One thing I do almost daily is live the life of a sex tourist vicariously through Stickman's website. I love reading most of the readers' subs and there are certain writers whose ramblings I enjoy more than most. Writers such as Phet who is able to describe his humdrum life in the UK in a very interesting light. Another writer Grasshopper wrote a very long and honest piece a couple of months ago which is a must read. At least I enjoyed it.

Then of course there's Stickman's weekly blog. My Sunday isn't complete without Stickman's weekly piece. For me reading it takes the sting out of the tail of what is the end of the weekend and the beginning of a new working week at the daily grind. There's lots of people with completely different viewpoints and lifestyles to myself on the site here making it a rich resource indeed. Stick contemplated moving out of Thailand a while ago and I for one am glad he didn't. I'm not sure what the retirement options are for someone running a website like this but I'm sure it's not great. But I guess doing something that you love is the key to happiness. Or at least doing something that gives you the time and money to pursue something that you love.
Anyways, that's all for me.


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