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Wow, Have 4 Years Passed Already?




eas•y•go•ing
ˈi ziˈgoʊ ɪŋShow Spelled [ee-zee-goh-ing] Show IPA
adjective
1. calm and unworried; relaxed and rather casual: an easygoing person.
2. going easily, as a horse.

re•spect•ful
rɪˈspɛkt fəlShow Spelled [ri-spekt-fuh l] Show IPA
adjective
full of, characterized by, or showing politeness or deference: a respectful reply.

cour•te•ous
ˈkɜr ti əsShow Spelled [kur-tee-uh s] Show IPA
adjective
having or showing good manners; polite.

lov•ing
ˈlʌv ɪŋShow Spelled [luhv-ing] Show IPA
adjective
feeling or showing love; warmly affectionate

trust•wor•thy
ˈtrʌstˌwɜr ðiShow Spelled [truhst-wur-th ee] Show IPA
adjective
deserving of trust or confidence; dependable; reliable

soul mate
noun
a person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond: I married my soul mate; you don't get much luckier than that

fem•i•nine
ˈfɛm ə nɪnShow Spelled [fem-uh-nin] Show IPA
adjective
1. pertaining to a woman or girl: feminine beauty; feminine dress.
2. having qualities traditionally ascribed to women, as sensitivity or gentleness.
3. effeminate; womanish: a man with a feminine walk.
4. belonging to the female sex; female: feminine staff members.

play•ful
ˈpleɪ fəlShow Spelled [pley-fuh l] Show IPA
adjective
1. full of play or fun; sportive; frolicsome.
2. pleasantly humorous or jesting: a playful remark.

OK OK you get the idea, huh?

Above are the words that I choose to describe my very own Thai mia.

On the 04th March it was 4 years since we married Thai style.

The stories on how I met and why I chose her have been well documented already on Stick's site and start here>> Read Here

Rhetorical question to myself: At the beginning of this Thai adventure did I ever think we would make it to the 4-year anniversary?

Answer: Yes, I mean no, oh maybe – well actually I was living in the moment and do not recall looking any further than my next Thai meal! (Does that sound a bit Thai to you? He he he)

I guess the true answer is: I’d love to think so, but in all honestly probably not.

You are probably all wondering if there have been any moments, moments of near disaster… I’d be lying if I said “No, of course not.” The initial 2 months after we married and stayed in Korat had their moments for sure. Why? Well East met West and for East (my Mia) at the age then of 33 it was her 1st ever live-in relationship. I knew from experience that this was going to be the time if at all, there would be issues of “bedding down and in together”.

We worked through them. I bit my tongue and I tried my best to communicate with Mia just why we had very differing ideas on issues.

Luckily for me, Mia is extremely level-headed, mature and was able to listen, see and learn.

Since that initial period every day has been easier and easier to the point now we are like an ‘old married couple’! But hey, that’s OK by me, Mia has proved to be a ‘keeper’ as I also have to her.

When viewing the submissions on Stick I read often about Thai / Farang relationships and that Thai traditions are bad (i.e. sin sod and supporting family etc) whilst Western values are right and the way forwards.

Well, guys, I have to honestly say that if that is your way of thinking, then I really believe you are asking for problems in any future relationship with any foreign national (not just a Thai) that thinks differently from you.

The answer, of course, I believe lies much deeper. If you desire a relationship you MUST be prepared to make some compromises along the way.

By marrying a Thai somewhere along the way you have to acknowledge that family to her is important. If you listen to her, watch her with her family you will see this and pick up on this early! If you embrace her family, she with respect and love you for that. I’m not talking about showering them with your hard $$$’s – if she wants to send them additional money OK, let her go and work for $$s for them (the family).

And of course on her side the Thai girl makes MAJOR compromises / sacrifices for us. To move to a foreign Western country, leaving everything they know as ‘normal’ including their food and family…. For you!

I would very much enjoy to end this submission by saying that with my 4 x previous Farang partners (one the mother of my 2 children) at the 4-year point I was parting the ways, easing them out of the house or divorcing them.

The difference this time around with my Thai Mia I am very pleased to say is that I only just feel that we are getting warmed up and we shall both be around for each other “until death do us part”.

Where do I start… (Most certainly a rhetorical question!!)

If you are an avid StickmanBangkok reader over the last 4 years, than you may well have already have made the time to read one or two of my 10 or so submissions over those years!

Initially it started with: The How, Where & Why of My Thai Wife Story Part 1 (a 5 part story series)

I have been back in our Western home country, from yet another Thailand visit, for less than a week now.

For some reason I always get this strange desire to want to write an article for publication on Stickman, shortly after every time I return back home.

Thailand wedding




Stickman's thoughts:

Long may the two of you be happy together…and it's kind of neat that you live together in a country i.e. a place neither of you were born or grew up in!