Bargirl Speaks Truth
I found your recent article on marrying bargirls very interesting and very true. Here's my story.
On a 4-week holiday to Phuket last year I met Jeab, a good looking 25-year old Isaan girl in a nightclub. She was a bargirl in soi SeaDragon, Phuket. She was small and petite and she immediately caught my eye.
I was Thai-boxing training and met her 2 or 3 times a week on my nights out as a holiday romance. One night I asked her if she had ever travelled outside Thailand and she said 'No'.
A week or two later while we were nightclubbing, her phone and wallet were stolen from her purse. I at first was suspicious but turns out it was true and it was the best thing that could have happened to me in all my time in Thailand and I count myself very lucky and I'll tell you why.
I'll take you back to the night in Hollywood nightclub when a distraught Thai girl loses her phone and wallet, alarm bells are ringing in my ears saying she is pulling a con on me. The only thing that convinced me she wasn't lying was that her
ID card was gone too which meant she couldn't come back to my hotel.
I said I would have a word with the hotel as they already had a copy of her card and off we went back to hotel. She was still distraught over losing her phone, the lost money was 4000 baht which didn't seem to bother her. I comforted her, told her
it would be ok and was generally kind to her and this seemed to do the trick. She said 'You have good heart'.
What has all this got to do with marriage I hear you say! Well, here goes.
As we lay there in a hotel room in Phuket she says "you ask me if I ever leave Thailand and I say no, well I live Norway 3 months."
She tells me that she used to work in Pattaya and met a Norwegian guy in his late 20's on his first night ever in Thailand. He spent 11 nights with her, fell in love with her and went home to work. It didn't stop there. He sent her money every
month so she would stay out of the bar, bought her a 60,000 baht motorbike and so on.
He kept coming back to Thailand and asked her to marry him. She said yes. So she moves to Norway, meets the family, moves into a big house, but begins to miss Thailand, so she goes home after the 3 months. The Norwegian guy follows her back on holidays and continues to send her money. She doesn't like Norway so she says if he wants to marry her, he must move to Thailand which he does. Six months later she tells him she doesn't love him and they break up, just as the majority of his cash is gone. The Norwegian guy moves on to Bangkok on an education visa, broke, not married and heartbroken.
This was the first time a Thai girl was really truthful with me so I made sure I was going to get enough information as possible there and then. I asked why she said yes to marriage.
She said "Cause he rich and look after me and my family".
She said her friends were happy in Pattaya as she "have lot money" and could look after them. She had a "new bike and live good".
But she did not like Norway so "marry in Thailand no good because he not get good job Thailand and not make good money!"
Turns out this guy sold his house in Norway, left his pensionable job, fell out with his family and ended up broke in Bangkok all because he asked a bargirl to marry him which never happened in the end!
I asked her what she did all day and night in Pattaya when not working. She said she "go gym" and "meet friends and go drink". The one thing that sticks in my mind from that night was when I said "don't worry it's only a phone you lost", she said "No, its my customers!"
Fast forward to four days before her birthday, June of this year. (I knew her birthday was coming up because she told me in June 2008 the Norwegian guy sent her 3,000 baht as a birthday present from Bangkok even after it was over for months).
Anyhow I get a text out of the blue saying she "no longer work Phuket and stay home" because she had an accident on her motorbike. I said text me your home address and I will send you a birthday card.
She said "You very good".
One day later she texts me her bank account details to which I replied, "You must be joking."
I haven't heard from her since.
What on earth was the Norwegian thinking?!