Stickman Readers' Submissions April 12th, 2010

No Love in Thailand?

She told me we couldn't afford beer anymore and that I would have to quit.

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Then I caught her spending $65 for make up.

I asked her how come I had to give up stuff and she didn't?

She said she needed the makeup to look pretty for me.

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I told her, that was what the beer was for.

I don't think she's coming back…

Ha! You guys out there need to lighten up. Thought you needed a good laugh. Some of these submissions are so serious.

My subject for this submission is LOVE. Specifically, love in Thailand and within the sex scene in Thailand. Is that what guys are looking for when they go over there? Deep down, most of us want love. Many of us have been through relationships and were really head over heals in love with someone at some time. Perhaps like me, you've been in love several times. It's like this quote from the movie Joe Black, and the character, William Parrish:

Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heals. I say, find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find her? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk. If you get hurt, you'll come back, because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love – well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived.

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Wow. I guess that says it all. I think guys equate love for sex, or sex for love. Personally, I go to Thailand for the available, easy sex. I like the physical turn on part of it. I just love women in general. I like their company. I think many guys don't. They get off and then go hang out with their buddys. I also go there as a total escape from the reality of life over her in the states. Once you've hit 50 + the dynamics of the man/woman thing seem to change. When you are young, women are out there and are into casual sex just as much as guys. Most guys have their most sexual liaisons during their 20's and 30's. Sex is "available". At my age now, sex is hardly ever "available".

I read this site all the time. After watching that Joe Black movie, I realized that love is the one thing that is never really talked about on this site. I think that is because guys just don't want to talk about it, plus, if you're going to Thailand for the sex, I think you should try and leave love out of the equation. I personally find it very difficult not to feel with my heart when I'm around these women. I've started to really care for a lot of them. I've even sent money to one. I've come to the conclusion that Thailand is just not the place to find "real love", what ever that is. Every relationship is somehow based on money right from the start, especially with the bargirls. I know what you're thinking. All relationships are based on money. Yeah, that's probably true to a point. I guess, you can try to find a "good girl", whatever good girl means.

I'm starting to get a little burnt out on the sex scene after 4 trips. Do I still enjoy the sex? Hell yeah, and I always will. Maybe I'm lying to myself thinking I can go there once a year, have some great sex, and still come back and lead a "normal" life here.

I know guys do fall in love, and I know they get their hearts, broke, stomped on, destroyed. No one ever seems to talk about it. And why would anybody want to talk about it?

I'm so lucky. I've been with many, many quality plus women. Classy women. "Real" women that I loved and will always love. I really feel sorry for those who have never experienced everything deep love can give you. Will I ever experience something like that again in life? Maybe. Maybe not. It's like that saying in that movie. If you haven't tried, you haven't lived.

We're all going to get old and die. Why not continue to have a great time in life while we're around. Treat people well, respect people. Have fun!

Stickman's thoughts:

Confusing sex and love in Thailand is a dangerous thing…

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