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Once An Essex Girl, Always An Essex Girl



OK, so why do I find myself writing this particular article you may ask?

Maybe it’s because over recent nights I actually have laid awake at night thinking about the conundrum that follows, or maybe human nature and psyche interests me so much about what drives people to go down and follow certain paths in their life, or maybe I just thought that if I write this it may provoke some interest and generate some other peoples thoughts and views and get Stick’s site on fire.

You see, there is a long established saying in England that goes like this; “You can take the Girl out of Essex… but you can’t take the Essex out of the Girl!!”

So what does the above saying really mean, perhaps I hear you ask?

Essex is an English county that partly makes up London, to the North East. Folk that live and come from Essex are characterized with certain personality traits. This is especially applied to younger females who get stereotyped in a comedic way usually all with the name Sharon and who get riled for dancing around their collective groups of handbags at discos and maybe even heard saying “Gor Blimey Mate … !!

The above sums up the typified run of the mill ‘Essex Girl’.

So what does this have to do with Stickman, Bangkok and Thailand?

Well with a wink and a smile in my eyes I also wish to add yet another saying: “If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck and looks like a duck – It must be a duck”

And so I reveal the true nature of this topic: BARGIRLS.

Firstly I want to say I am not an expert in any manner on the subject of bargirls from any country in the world. In fact I have NO real life experience at all.

However, I have now read so many submissions via Stick's reader submission pages about the topic of bargirls, that I felt myself starting to form some lasting impressions about the subject, from all those aforementioned readings.

I am most interested about what drives some Western men to believe that they can form long lasting, deep and meaningful relationships with Thai bargirls.

It would appear that some of the common definitions and personality descriptions that find themselves labelled to Thai bargirls in general are:

  • Money Hungry – Deceitful

    • Liar – Untrustworthy

      • Manipulative – Deceptive

        • Drug User – Hard natured

          • Street Wise – Thieving

            • Dishonest – Prostitute

              • Hooker

Not what I would call an impressive or worthy list of character traits that you would wish to consider, when it comes to selecting a permanent life partner, with which you desired to form a healthy life-long partnership.

OK, so perhaps if a bargirl is ‘saved by a Farang’ in her few days of freshly joining the industry, then perhaps I can accept that then it would be the only possible way to have a stable and genuine relationship with an ex-bargirl.

Surely once the girl becomes a hardened bargirl, and had the time to pick up and refine at least 4 or 5 of the above negative bargirl character traits then all future is for her is just about lost forever, when it comes to forming a lasting, genuine and stable relationship.

Within many of the articles I have read, it is suggested that the bargirls' ingrained way of thinking becomes so heavily entrenched that it ‘becomes their new way of thinking, their new personality’ and it’s that that leaves me seeing no future way of escape out for the bargirl.

So lets just add another layer of difficulty on top, regarding all the recent submissions on morality and the suggested harm that the bargirls suffer from long-term prostitution.

Do you now really visualize any possible way that a Farang and a Thai bargirl could ever work out a long term, stable, balanced relationship ?

So I ask again, just what is it that makes a Western man think he really can settle down with a Thai bargirl ….. after all remember the new saying:

You can take the girl out of the bar, but you can’t take the bar out of the bargirl !!

Stickman's thoughts:

I think most guys who find themselves in a relationship with a bargirl never intended the bar environment to be their hunting ground for something permanent. In most cases I think it just sort of happened and one day they woke up and found that they were really keen on a woman they happened to find in that environment. I don't think there are many guys who actually think, "I want a wife and I'm going to Walking Street to find her!"