Stickman Readers' Submissions August 28th, 2008

What I Know About Isaan Girls

What I’ve learned from interacting with Isaan Girls from the Country I Love-THAILAND

The most important thing in Thailand is money. Not just for riches but for the face it brings. Thais will use whatever resources they have to secure this money. The ruling class will use their power, the police will use their authority, the men will use their superior gender, and the Isaan girls will use the only commodity they have – their dark skin, beautiful bodies, and silky black hair that farang find so attractive. The girls know it and their mothers know it to.

The poor Isaan girls don’t stand a chance from the moment they are born. They are shunned as second class citizens by their villages because of their gender, and third class citizens by the rest of Thailand because of the region they were born in. Oh! But the face they receive when they send home the bacon earned by prostituting themselves to the comparatively wealthy Farangs. And because of the face their families receive by this increased wealth their mothers turn a blind eye and encourage them to send more. And the girls become the mothers. And this attitude is ingrained so deep in their culture that it could take centuries of mixing with the Farang for it to change. And it is only by mixing with the Farang that this change will manifest, for it will not come from within Thailand itself as the ruling class and hierarchy have nothing to gain and everything to lose.

So the beautiful, innocent, intelligent but forcibly uneducated Isaan girls head for the City of Angels and the beach resorts of Thailand in search of face and fortune. And the Farang are there in numbers to greet them. And the Farang that are there to greet them, not so much the ones that have been to the Land of Smiles many times and survived, and not the ones with a hard heart, but the ones fresh off the plane who think they have just stumbled into paradise, they are the real victims. For the Isaan girl think we Farangs are stupid like a water buffalo with a pull ring in its nose. And we can be. It is our by our egos, our fascination, and our lust that we are led.

Someone used the analogy that a Thai sees a Farang as an ATM walking, and it fits perfectly. All the Isaan girl has to do is find out the PIN code for a particular machine and pull out the money. And won’t their blood sucking families be fond of their second class members then. Now I don’t want to go and tar all the families with the same brush as there is always an exception to the rule, but there is a rule of thumb to go by.

And the Farang become the victim. For the attention we get is delicious and we are captivated by it and in love with it and our little heads will follow the pied piper's tune and we are deliriously happy and dance in the street. And when it’s time to go back to our countries we leave our shattered hearts scattered in Thailand while our body and minds are at home doing whatever we can to return ASAP. If one can survive their initial and enraptured visit to The Land of Smiles and eventually and objectively see it for what it is before becoming entangled in the deceit, then one could possibly be wiser for the experience and enjoy their future trips to Thailand. For once Thailand is in your blood it will forever be calling out to you. You could, and many do, visit Thailand, don’t bite into the apple, and leave with no desire to come back, honeymooners, couples, retirees etc. But a male farang without a travelling companion is usually changed forever.

ORDER OF IMPORTANCE FOR A ISAAN GIRL (with little exception) is:-

1. Money

2. mother and Family

3. face

4. Thai Boyfriend and Friends

5. Possessions

6. Farang

There is no set order of importance for Farang it all depends on our personality and needs. They could satisfy any one desire or combination of the following:-

Sex – you got it Variety – you got it Sexual experience – you got it

Romance – you got it Short term companionship – you got it

Relationship – you got it Holiday fun and good times – you got it

We can have whatever we desire – AND THAT’S THE CATCH.

The Isaan girl can and will adapt to whatever we desire – FOR A PRICE. Some girls are better at providing one particular need and some another. There is still some compatible selection process involved. And the Farang maybe very sincere and often is, but there is little sincerity on the Thai girl's part, only on the surface level. This is the point where a Farang can and mostly do become the victim. Even the experienced may find themselves caught in the spider’s web. It is a well used cliché but it is a “tangled web they weave”.

Now I’m not saying that the Isaan girl is wicked or evil. On the contrary most in their own way have their ethics and morals to guide them. They are mostly trying to be the best they can according to their conditioning using the only resource they have, and I would not lift even a little finger to harm them in any way. They come out the other end scarred enough as it is. It is just a different culture, “east is east and west is west”.

If we allow ourselves to interact below the surface level and become emotionally involved then it is very dangerous waters we tread and some of us barely keep our head above water and make it out intact. But the post traumatic experience (it’s traumatic) we are left with can take months (or years) of soul searching and counseling to recover. But we may come through the other side a better man.

Am I being dramatic? Maybe. For some who have a fortress around the heart will wonder what I’m going on about. Others who tend to give a bit of themselves will know exactly what I’m talking about.

The Thai girl is really only interested in us for the money. Sorry but we are kidding ourselves if we believe otherwise. They are not attracted by our looks, our muscles, our age, our dress, our goodness or our badness, only our wealth. Sometimes we will yield to them a hansum amount of money over a short period of time, sometimes a little more over a longer period, and sometimes a large amount over a long period of time. I karumba! The jackpot. And some girls, depending on their acquired skills, hit the jackpot concurrently many times.


What I have learned about the country I love is to stay on the surface. Don’t dive in. If you do dive in just splash around a little and get back to the surface where the sun is shining. Don’t dive in too deep where it’s dark, and not too long, or when you surface the boat may have already sailed and you’ll be left to fend for yourself in the open waters. For make no mistake: – “If we laugh the Thai will laugh with us, but if we cry we cry alone”.

I love Thailand. I keep coming back for holidays where my senses are always alive. I am fascinated, not by its history, but by its culture and people. I love the Isaan girls. I suspect they're doing more good for their country than what fellow Thais and visitors realise. God bless the little girl in each and every one of them.

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Stickman's thoughts:

I love the second to laugh paragraph. Brilliant analogy!

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