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Meeting Thai Women Through Internet

  • Written by Anonymous
  • October 14th, 2002
  • 5 min read


Black Pagoda Patpong Bangkok

By MR


By now, everyone should know the many risks, both monetary and emotional, you will face if you attempt to forge a long-term relationship with a bar / go-go girl. Many websites, numerous books on the subject, press articles, and other media have all come to the same conclusion. The chances of success are slim to none. I think most men have gotten the message and now and look for other alternatives to meeting Thai women. One such option is the Internet. Whether through bangkokchat, yahoo, or sanook.com, you have the opportunity to talk to college educated (or currently attending college) Thai women interested in meeting foreigners. Most of them have nothing to do with the bar scene. They are reasonably articulate, some come from decent families, and are willing to talk to foreign men. You relax a little and think that you can let your guard down. You say to yourself, "She doesn't fit the profile of a bar girl, so all that advice about Thai women I can ignore and feel safe. I found myself a keeper." Sorry, my friend. There are no free lunches in this world. Although your chances of success are greater, you should not fall madly in love with a girl you only corresponded with through email but have never seen in person. Even if she is a virgin or dutifully emails you everyday, she is still probably fooling around with some foreign men on the side. How do I know? I am one of those guys.

I am 25 years old and have lived in Bangkok for one year. I originally arrived in Khao San Road with the intention of backpacking around Asia. My idea of a good time is raving at a disco at night and getting high during the day. I was vaguely aware of the sex scene in Thailand, but thought the go-go bars and such seemed a bit ridiculous. I never was attracted to Asian women per se, so I was ignorant of the bar scene my first few months here. Due to some financial constraints, I was forced to get a job. First, I shaved my dreads and trading in my birkenstocks for a shirt and tie. That's when things started to change drastically.

Once my appearance changed, Thais were more willing to talk to me. Thai women more specifically. I am a friendly and care-free guy. I don't mind talking to strangers in shops and such. Most Thais are pretty shy and would back away, but occasionally some would respond. To cut a long story short, I ended up dating a few university girls. Some of them had long correspondences with men abroad who meet them through chat rooms. They had never meet face to face, however. I could tell by reading the emails that most of the men (mostly in their 30s to early 40s) had fallen in love with these girls. They would send the girls an email everyday and would count down the days when they would finally arrive in LOS.

I'll give you one example. I'll call her Kanjana. She is a senior in economics at a Thai university. She chats with many men through email to "practice" her English. She is also a virgin. I met her in Siam Square while shopping. I struck up a conversation and we ended up agreeing to meet at RCA. We danced most of the night away. We were both pretty tired, so she ended up staying at my apartment. One thing led to another until she told me she was a virgin. Excuse the euphemism, but she ended up helping me pleasure myself. The next morning, we had breakfast and checked our email at a internet cafe. I noticed a large number of messages from a guy named Robert in Sweden. The guy was obviously in love with her. The numerous hearts and "miss you honey" in his email made this clear. I told her, "Oh, so you have a boyfriend from Sweden already." She said, "No, I do chat with him. He come Thailand first time October. He friend. No boyfriend"

I couldn't help but feel bad for this guy. He had been sending her emails everyday and developed an infatuation with this girl. He had been carefully saving for his big trip to Thailand to meet the girl he clearly wanted to settle down with. A girl that meet me yesterday and wanked me off.

Later, I noticed some more emails. One from a guy working in England and Singapore. He was coming to Thailand in December to meet her. He didn't seem to be in love, but still was open to the possibility of a long-term relationship with Kan.

In all, I've dated six or seven Thai girls. Four of them had long, involved correspondences with foreign men who have never been in Thailand. I don't know what their expectations are, but please keep your head on straight when you finally come to Thailand. These women haven't been waiting dutifully for your arrival. They fool around and probably have other men they also email regularly. They don't try to overtly scam you for money like bargirls, but keep in mind that you may be one of many suitors.

Why did I bother writing this? I had a bad experience with a Thai girl which would have been a lot worse if someone hadn't told me about this website. If I can stop another falang from making a stupid mistake, I think I have repaid my debt to this site. So, Robert from Sweden who is arriving the third week of October, she is a sweet girl. I think it can work out with you two. But she did try to hit me up for money once. When I laughed, she dropped it. I talk to her occasionally, but we don't mess around anymore. Derrick from England who has been emailing Bee. She is a useless psycho. I would stay the fuck away from her.

So, even "good" Thai girls can be just as vexing as the "bad" ones. If it seems to good to be true, it probably is.

Stickman says:

The way Thai girls have embraced the internet is truly fascinating. But in some ways it can be depressing too for you start to see many of the same patterns from the bar being repeated, just under a slightly different guise. Both my personal experience and the experiences of my friends are very similar to yours – be careful with girls who you meet online.

And if you aren't careful, then get Stick to help you find the truth…see banner below! (Hey' it is my website so I can blatantly advertise, ok!)